Sitting here in this boring room…its just another boring Sunday afternoon…wasting my time, I’ve got nothing to do…hanging around just waiting for you…but nothing ever happens…and I wonder!!!
And then I thought of making this entry.
Maybe coz I’m an only child, my friends have always been an integral part of my life. All my thoughts and what I feel at a particular moment is somewhat connected to this bunch of people whom I call core of my life, my friends. Since I don’t want to take names here, I will address them as what I feel about them.
1: Mr. Perfect
Mr. Perfect is no ways perfect. He is just like one of us with his own share of flaws but still somehow he is Mr. Perfect to me. I met him randomly few months back (to be more precise on 17th Nov ’06). That too in a very formal situation when I went to his office to collect the Pankaj Udhas concert passes. Then he was a just a senior from college. He was giving it to me just to get rid of them (as he promptly collected them from a colleague of his but could not make it to the concert). That day marked the beginning of a friendship that hasn’t seen much of dark days. That must be coz of the understanding we have of each other. Add to it, we are exact opposites, which kidda balances it all.
Things have changed from then to now, but that friendship we share is still the same and one thing that I can be sure of is that this relationship will not change much even if at some point of time we won’t be the way we are today. I can very easily take the blame of things that causes mess between us. Being a very spontaneous and moody person I do react violently in certain situations but thanks to his faith in me I haven’t caused any damage to this relationship. I am glad to have him in my life and also that he is the way he is.
2: My Partner in Crime, Joy, Fun and Distress
We were a part of the same girls’ gang since our college days but never great friends. It is now after three years that I have discovered a friend, a best friend in her. We got together by chance that too after a break of a year and now it feels as if we have always been together. I wonder how I will ever manage without her.
We are together for the most part of the day that includes office, then hanging around making crazy plans, breaking rules, having ‘chai’ and things that I cannot write about. I do not have any friends in the office and she is to be blamed. I never get enough time to go around and talk to others as I always have something or the other to tell her or to hear from her. She is the only reason that makes me feel like going to office. Thanks for making me come to the office and not get fired.
3: Mommy
She has always been the mommy of the gang. The one who has something to say on the happenings in our lives. The one who is given the responsibility to be unbiased and save the situation. Recently things have got slightly haywire basically coz of the distance and our independent schedules. However, when we meet it is like we have never been away. Now-a-days our girls’ gang is going through a tough time and in some way I am also responsible. Thanx a lot for meeting us day before yesterday. It was so nice to chat with ya over a chocolate cake.
4: My Kiddo
She is like the li’l kid of the gang. Or maybe it is just me who feels like that. Things have got real messy between us, to an extent that we are not talking to each other. When I look back at how things were, this situation becomes something right out of a nightmare. It seems like yesterday when we were together through thick and thin. The way I was with her during her tough time and the support she extended when I was all alone.
And today we have reached a point where we cannot ‘tolerate’ each other. Where I feel that she is being irrational and is deriving meaning out of things and she thinks that I am a changed person.
Changed??? Maybe. But one thing that I am sure of is that I haven’t changed to an extent where I will not care about her. She was and still is one of the most important people in my life. I may have differences with her, may fight with her, shout at her but I cannot bring myself not to love her. I am still there where I was all these years. Only if she could turn back and see what we had and what we are doing to it. Nope. We cannot throw off something this beautiful that we have, not for anything or anybody on this earth. Kiddo, I love ya loads.
5: My Bro, my best friend
He is one thing that I always wanted in my life, bro. Though extreme opposites we still have something unique to us. Guess it is the way our relationship has come this far in spite of all the differences and fights that we have had. He is one person with whom I have seen one of the toughest times in my life and the same for goes for him and we have emerged out of it victorious just as phoenix emerges out of its ashes.
We have seen each other grow to the kidda people we are today. One and half years may not look like a long time but we have experienced a lifetime in this short span. Today, sitting in different cities we know that we are there for each other. One thing I admire about this guy is his love, care and dedication for the people he loves. Nobody can match it ever. It might have brought him loadsa sorrow and heartbreaks but this is one thing that he never gave away. If he loves you, he will be there for ya. I can never thank my stars enough for bringing ya into my life. Kudos bro!!!
6: NUPIU, an ideal friend
We became friends when we were in kindergarten. 18 years have passed since then. Times changed, so did people but our friendship is still the same. Just as it has always been. We were never fortunate enough to have been able to spend too much time physically together but there were no distances either. We wrote letters when we couldn’t meet and had no cell phones at our convenience. Meetings came once in a month or two, that too just few hours. Those hours were never enough to tell each other all that we were going through. Our lives had been like open books to each other. No mistakes hidden or secrets kept from each other. We were each others’ secret keepers.
We have kidda lived each others’ lives, knowing every bit of it. And the best part being that even now, we are still the same to each other. Our face lights up on the slight mention of the other one. We are different and yet similar. We are best buddies.
7: Crazy bum
She is one crazy thing in my life. And the only one to challenge my craziness. We meet with a ringing laughter and it lingers on even after we are back to our respective lives. Nothing in this world looks serious to two of us. In fact we have a world of our own when we are together. A world of memories and plans for future. That does not mean that we didn’t have any tough time to face. We did. But nothing ever looked big enough to affect us strongly. Nothing that could crack the bond that we share.
8: The cute one
She is the tiniest and cutest of all my buddies. Life is like a roller coaster with her. She supports me in all my crazy plans and will stick around in tough times. Will try to be my care-taker and end up being taken care of by me. She is always charged up for good and bad. She is one person who makes me have a glimpse of kidda mother I will be. She is just like my baby.
We have had dirtiest fights ever but how things became right between us is one topic we still talk about and end up finding no answer to it. After a big fight, one fine day, we just forgot all the issues that we had with each other and spoke out. Then we hugged and we realised what we had been missing all the time. Since then we never had any major fight, just chotu-motu things that really does not matter much. Being shouted at is one thing she cannot take and shouting it all out is one thing I cannot help and is also one thing that I do very often. But still, nothing’s important as long as we are friends. And trust me; it is for a long long time to come.
9: Ms Rebel
She is one person who knows what she wants and also how to get it. There are things that she believes in and will stick to it, no matter what. She is a rebel, she is me. This is no lyrics of some famous song but this is Ms Rebel, my mirror image.
We are like twins. We have gone through good and bad phases almost at the same time. Let it be our experiences with people or situations we landed ourselves in or for that matter the way we dealt with it and are what we are today.
We lose touch very often but this is not the case of ‘out of sight, out of mind’ with us. We always know that we are just a call away. A call and we are back to times when we were together in the school, bitching about teachers, making fun of boys and flirting around. It’s like we were never away. I haven’t spoken to her for over a month now or maybe more than that but still I know she is there and still cares for me the way she used to and so do I.
10. Christiano aka Dumbz
He is one of the sweetest people I have ever come across. ‘Simple’ is the word for him. I met him randomly on net. That was when I had just discovered internet and was so amused by the chat rooms. There I met this simple straight forward guy who never gets tired of explaining his stand to a particular thing or situation. He can go on and on. That still remains the same with him. This is one thing that always bugged and amused me at the same time.
This is one guy who means every word he says and his loyalty can never waver. He is what he is and he’ll accept it either for good or for bad. This guy has taught me many lessons in life, all for good. He made me see how one can love and respect a person with a pure heart. I know that I mean the world to him. He never said it overtly but I know it. And I know I’m right. Kidda brat I am, I have given him loadsa bad moments but he never complained. I shouted at him for small things and didn’t talk to him for months for the plain reason that I was pissed with him for some or the other reason. However, I still remained his best friend. He is the one who had gone outta his ways to make me feel special. Today, I want to tell him that he is equally special to me. I might not have said it often but I love him from the core of my heart. I love ya loads sweetz.
11. Hero
He is the first person I ever called ‘the hero’. We are from the same batch in the school and used to take same coaching but we rarely, oops, never spoke. Our first chat was long after school was over, when I met him randomly at one market place. As a part of formality we exchanged numbers. Then just as an attempt to stay in touch with a batch mate we spoke and never realised how we became such good friends.
Once again, we are extreme opposites. He is one quiet guy when I am a chatterbox. He would rarely raise his voice at me when I keep nagging him (and trust me, I am too loud) for every small thing. He hardly has anything to complain about while my list of complaints cease to end and still he’ll be there with me and for me.
He never used to speak out things to me (okay! now he does) and made me wonder of the depth of our relationship. He is one and only person who had ever made me feel insecure. One person who made me realise his worth the hard way. And I love and cherish him with all I have.
As he always say, I have never been there through his hard times whatever the reasons be but he never complained and had always been glad that finally I did come around. And I am left with nothing more than guilt to see him go through it all by himself. We have our reasons and we understand them. I better not get started on them.
Anyways, he is one of the best things ever happened to me. Thanx for being there.
12. My Langotia Yaar
I can keep going down the memory lane and she will always be there. We have been friends since the time I remember. We lived in same neighbourhood and were admitted to the kindergarten at the same time in the same school. We have been a part of each others lives for more than 20 years now. Telling each other every bit of what we did and what happened to us the entire day comes as normally to us as breathing. We are like each others’ personal diary to which we keep making an entry everyday.
Even post school, after I came to Delhi and then went to Chennai and now back in here, things haven’t changed a bit. It’s still the same. Back home means spending maximum time with her. Doing night outs at each others’ place is not much different from sleeping on our beds.
Since 20 years is a good part of 22 year old life, we have had our share of major and minor fights. But we always came in terms with each others’ flaws just like two sisters would. And now, we are so used to the way we are that nothing affects us to an extent of triggering a fight. She knows it already what she means to me and also how bad I can be at expressing it to her. She is my one and only chaddi buddy. Love ya loads.
And then I thought of making this entry.
Maybe coz I’m an only child, my friends have always been an integral part of my life. All my thoughts and what I feel at a particular moment is somewhat connected to this bunch of people whom I call core of my life, my friends. Since I don’t want to take names here, I will address them as what I feel about them.
1: Mr. Perfect
Mr. Perfect is no ways perfect. He is just like one of us with his own share of flaws but still somehow he is Mr. Perfect to me. I met him randomly few months back (to be more precise on 17th Nov ’06). That too in a very formal situation when I went to his office to collect the Pankaj Udhas concert passes. Then he was a just a senior from college. He was giving it to me just to get rid of them (as he promptly collected them from a colleague of his but could not make it to the concert). That day marked the beginning of a friendship that hasn’t seen much of dark days. That must be coz of the understanding we have of each other. Add to it, we are exact opposites, which kidda balances it all.
Things have changed from then to now, but that friendship we share is still the same and one thing that I can be sure of is that this relationship will not change much even if at some point of time we won’t be the way we are today. I can very easily take the blame of things that causes mess between us. Being a very spontaneous and moody person I do react violently in certain situations but thanks to his faith in me I haven’t caused any damage to this relationship. I am glad to have him in my life and also that he is the way he is.
2: My Partner in Crime, Joy, Fun and Distress
We were a part of the same girls’ gang since our college days but never great friends. It is now after three years that I have discovered a friend, a best friend in her. We got together by chance that too after a break of a year and now it feels as if we have always been together. I wonder how I will ever manage without her.
We are together for the most part of the day that includes office, then hanging around making crazy plans, breaking rules, having ‘chai’ and things that I cannot write about. I do not have any friends in the office and she is to be blamed. I never get enough time to go around and talk to others as I always have something or the other to tell her or to hear from her. She is the only reason that makes me feel like going to office. Thanks for making me come to the office and not get fired.
3: Mommy
She has always been the mommy of the gang. The one who has something to say on the happenings in our lives. The one who is given the responsibility to be unbiased and save the situation. Recently things have got slightly haywire basically coz of the distance and our independent schedules. However, when we meet it is like we have never been away. Now-a-days our girls’ gang is going through a tough time and in some way I am also responsible. Thanx a lot for meeting us day before yesterday. It was so nice to chat with ya over a chocolate cake.
4: My Kiddo
She is like the li’l kid of the gang. Or maybe it is just me who feels like that. Things have got real messy between us, to an extent that we are not talking to each other. When I look back at how things were, this situation becomes something right out of a nightmare. It seems like yesterday when we were together through thick and thin. The way I was with her during her tough time and the support she extended when I was all alone.
And today we have reached a point where we cannot ‘tolerate’ each other. Where I feel that she is being irrational and is deriving meaning out of things and she thinks that I am a changed person.
Changed??? Maybe. But one thing that I am sure of is that I haven’t changed to an extent where I will not care about her. She was and still is one of the most important people in my life. I may have differences with her, may fight with her, shout at her but I cannot bring myself not to love her. I am still there where I was all these years. Only if she could turn back and see what we had and what we are doing to it. Nope. We cannot throw off something this beautiful that we have, not for anything or anybody on this earth. Kiddo, I love ya loads.
5: My Bro, my best friend
He is one thing that I always wanted in my life, bro. Though extreme opposites we still have something unique to us. Guess it is the way our relationship has come this far in spite of all the differences and fights that we have had. He is one person with whom I have seen one of the toughest times in my life and the same for goes for him and we have emerged out of it victorious just as phoenix emerges out of its ashes.
We have seen each other grow to the kidda people we are today. One and half years may not look like a long time but we have experienced a lifetime in this short span. Today, sitting in different cities we know that we are there for each other. One thing I admire about this guy is his love, care and dedication for the people he loves. Nobody can match it ever. It might have brought him loadsa sorrow and heartbreaks but this is one thing that he never gave away. If he loves you, he will be there for ya. I can never thank my stars enough for bringing ya into my life. Kudos bro!!!
6: NUPIU, an ideal friend
We became friends when we were in kindergarten. 18 years have passed since then. Times changed, so did people but our friendship is still the same. Just as it has always been. We were never fortunate enough to have been able to spend too much time physically together but there were no distances either. We wrote letters when we couldn’t meet and had no cell phones at our convenience. Meetings came once in a month or two, that too just few hours. Those hours were never enough to tell each other all that we were going through. Our lives had been like open books to each other. No mistakes hidden or secrets kept from each other. We were each others’ secret keepers.
We have kidda lived each others’ lives, knowing every bit of it. And the best part being that even now, we are still the same to each other. Our face lights up on the slight mention of the other one. We are different and yet similar. We are best buddies.
7: Crazy bum
She is one crazy thing in my life. And the only one to challenge my craziness. We meet with a ringing laughter and it lingers on even after we are back to our respective lives. Nothing in this world looks serious to two of us. In fact we have a world of our own when we are together. A world of memories and plans for future. That does not mean that we didn’t have any tough time to face. We did. But nothing ever looked big enough to affect us strongly. Nothing that could crack the bond that we share.
8: The cute one
She is the tiniest and cutest of all my buddies. Life is like a roller coaster with her. She supports me in all my crazy plans and will stick around in tough times. Will try to be my care-taker and end up being taken care of by me. She is always charged up for good and bad. She is one person who makes me have a glimpse of kidda mother I will be. She is just like my baby.
We have had dirtiest fights ever but how things became right between us is one topic we still talk about and end up finding no answer to it. After a big fight, one fine day, we just forgot all the issues that we had with each other and spoke out. Then we hugged and we realised what we had been missing all the time. Since then we never had any major fight, just chotu-motu things that really does not matter much. Being shouted at is one thing she cannot take and shouting it all out is one thing I cannot help and is also one thing that I do very often. But still, nothing’s important as long as we are friends. And trust me; it is for a long long time to come.
9: Ms Rebel
She is one person who knows what she wants and also how to get it. There are things that she believes in and will stick to it, no matter what. She is a rebel, she is me. This is no lyrics of some famous song but this is Ms Rebel, my mirror image.
We are like twins. We have gone through good and bad phases almost at the same time. Let it be our experiences with people or situations we landed ourselves in or for that matter the way we dealt with it and are what we are today.
We lose touch very often but this is not the case of ‘out of sight, out of mind’ with us. We always know that we are just a call away. A call and we are back to times when we were together in the school, bitching about teachers, making fun of boys and flirting around. It’s like we were never away. I haven’t spoken to her for over a month now or maybe more than that but still I know she is there and still cares for me the way she used to and so do I.
10. Christiano aka Dumbz
He is one of the sweetest people I have ever come across. ‘Simple’ is the word for him. I met him randomly on net. That was when I had just discovered internet and was so amused by the chat rooms. There I met this simple straight forward guy who never gets tired of explaining his stand to a particular thing or situation. He can go on and on. That still remains the same with him. This is one thing that always bugged and amused me at the same time.
This is one guy who means every word he says and his loyalty can never waver. He is what he is and he’ll accept it either for good or for bad. This guy has taught me many lessons in life, all for good. He made me see how one can love and respect a person with a pure heart. I know that I mean the world to him. He never said it overtly but I know it. And I know I’m right. Kidda brat I am, I have given him loadsa bad moments but he never complained. I shouted at him for small things and didn’t talk to him for months for the plain reason that I was pissed with him for some or the other reason. However, I still remained his best friend. He is the one who had gone outta his ways to make me feel special. Today, I want to tell him that he is equally special to me. I might not have said it often but I love him from the core of my heart. I love ya loads sweetz.
11. Hero
He is the first person I ever called ‘the hero’. We are from the same batch in the school and used to take same coaching but we rarely, oops, never spoke. Our first chat was long after school was over, when I met him randomly at one market place. As a part of formality we exchanged numbers. Then just as an attempt to stay in touch with a batch mate we spoke and never realised how we became such good friends.
Once again, we are extreme opposites. He is one quiet guy when I am a chatterbox. He would rarely raise his voice at me when I keep nagging him (and trust me, I am too loud) for every small thing. He hardly has anything to complain about while my list of complaints cease to end and still he’ll be there with me and for me.
He never used to speak out things to me (okay! now he does) and made me wonder of the depth of our relationship. He is one and only person who had ever made me feel insecure. One person who made me realise his worth the hard way. And I love and cherish him with all I have.
As he always say, I have never been there through his hard times whatever the reasons be but he never complained and had always been glad that finally I did come around. And I am left with nothing more than guilt to see him go through it all by himself. We have our reasons and we understand them. I better not get started on them.
Anyways, he is one of the best things ever happened to me. Thanx for being there.
12. My Langotia Yaar
I can keep going down the memory lane and she will always be there. We have been friends since the time I remember. We lived in same neighbourhood and were admitted to the kindergarten at the same time in the same school. We have been a part of each others lives for more than 20 years now. Telling each other every bit of what we did and what happened to us the entire day comes as normally to us as breathing. We are like each others’ personal diary to which we keep making an entry everyday.
Even post school, after I came to Delhi and then went to Chennai and now back in here, things haven’t changed a bit. It’s still the same. Back home means spending maximum time with her. Doing night outs at each others’ place is not much different from sleeping on our beds.
Since 20 years is a good part of 22 year old life, we have had our share of major and minor fights. But we always came in terms with each others’ flaws just like two sisters would. And now, we are so used to the way we are that nothing affects us to an extent of triggering a fight. She knows it already what she means to me and also how bad I can be at expressing it to her. She is my one and only chaddi buddy. Love ya loads.
